My Month of Moments

A month!

 

I feel like that applies to so many different times throughout life 

 

Things were moving along in the best direction. For the first time since losing Jim truthfully. And out of nowhere, like it does, life happened. And – also like it does, all sorts of things started happening at the same time.

 

Because – When it rains, it pours.

Why would anything be simple?

 

That’s no fun!!

 

So, like I said, it’s been a month! I’ve been plugging along, keeping everything together – but things definitely got frazzled along the way.

 

Including me.

 

And my brain!

 

Frazzled – but not derailed.

 

That was pointed out to me on a coaching call this week and it didn’t really sink in until the next day.

 

Sometimes it takes someone else pointing things out for us to see them in a different way. I was busy focusing on my business. And I was busy focusing on finding solutions.

 

So I didn’t notice that I wasn’t overthinking.

I didn’t notice that I wasn’t questioning myself. I wasn’t anxious. I was in complete problem solving mode. And living life. Correction – enjoying living life for the first time in over 5 years.

 

That’s bigger than huge. Where are my FRIENDS fans? What’s bigger than huge. THIS! 

 

It’s been years of surviving and forcing myself to do things and here I am, living life again. So yes – it’s been a month. But it didn’t knock me off my game – not even a little.

 

Have I had moments? Of course, I’m human and hello, I’m me. I’ve had podcast episodes holding my phone because technology and I were having a moment.

 

I’ve since learned these are signs from Jim, but that’s a story for another day – but also progress during my month of moments.

 

But this is about more than that. This is about the stigmas. The stereotypes. The myths. The misperceptions.

 

All of it!!

 

I can’t even tell you how often I hear “This isn’t anything like I expected it to be” from clients after our first appointment. So I ask “What did you expect it to be?”

 

And I hear:

 

Like what I see in the movies

 

Laying on a couch talking about my unresolved childhood issues

 

You asking me “And how does that make you feel?” after any and everything I talk about

 

Can I please tell you that it’s none of these things? And can I please tell you that you’re missing out if this is what’s holding you back from seeing someone?

 

I know, I’m biased. I think we ALL can be better by seeing someone. Coaches need coaches. Athletes need coaches. The perception that something is bad or wrong with talking to someone to better certain areas of your life is what’s wrong, not talking to someone!!

 

It can look however you want it to look. It can be online or in person. Or even over the phone. Individually or with a group.

 

It’s up to you.

 

Don’t let your imagination stop you from starting.

 

Starting can be as easy as sending an email. Or joining an online group. I created The Griefhab Community so people have a place to heal their own way – at their own pace.

 

There’s unconditional support from others who get it, resources, my weekly live show Picking Up the Pieces, and so much more.

 

I also have even more support in my Team Ruthless Group. We meet every Wednesday plus every holiday because this group knows that’s when they need the most support.

 

You get to decide what it looks like and what works for you! Just take that first step