When you’ve experienced significant loss, it can feel like your world has exploded into a million pieces. It may feel like your world is out of control, and putting the pieces back together is impossible.
I am here to tell you from experience that it IS possible. You can take control of your healing journey, and you can do it your way and in your own time. You may not be able to control if it’s going to rain on the day you plan to enjoy a long hike or if there will be terrible traffic on the way to work, but you can control how you take care of yourself.
Taking control of your healing journey comes down to five transformational steps. This blog delves into the one step that can often be the hardest to implement.
Grief can be all-consuming, lonely, and scary. So it’s common to isolate yourself and not talk to anyone, especially on a bad day. But the days when you don’t want to talk to anyone are the exact days when you need someone the most.
Healing from loss is hard enough, so why make it even harder for yourself? Anything you can do to set yourself up for success and plan and make those dark stretches easier will be such a gift in your life.
Help takes a village. Your first step is accepting that and allowing yourself to lean on others.
To do that, you need to be clear on who is in your tribe. My tribe literally kept me sane, safe, and standing… and yours will too… but you have to let them.
Whether your tribe is a local friend or an international online group, knowing who you can reach out to on your bad days will help you feel less alone and more confident to deal with the daily triggers . Your tribe can help you deal with what’s going on in your mind by listening, offering advice or making you laugh, as well as providing comfort, support and guidance.
When you’re feeling vulnerable and low, the last thing you want to do is put yourself out there and talk about it. Opening up about your struggles opens you up to the fear of judgment, labels, and repercussions.
Talking about mental health isn’t just a conversation that could change your life, it could change so many other lives worldwide. By opening up and talking about your struggles, you encourage other people in your life to feel more comfortable opening up as well.
It’s a ripple effect.
When you use your voice and explain what it is like living with grief, you are educating others and helping create understanding and empathy. Then those people will be able to educate others on the experience of living with grief, and so on and so on.
When you see someone in a cast or on crutches you immediately know that they have a broken limb. You feel compassion and understand that they are healing without them having to tell you.
Grief, on the other hand, is invisible. You can’t see anxiety, and you can’t see depression. This is why it’s so important to speak up, reach out and lean on your tribe.
Understanding what you need to do to release emotions and stop them from building up can make a massive difference in your healing journey.
My monthly Relief From Grief workshop is all about committing to moving forward and taking control of your healing journey.
In this FREE workshop, you will learn the five exact steps I use in my own journey.
Join me for the next Relief From Grief workshop, and let’s transform your life and the world together.
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In January 2021, the Griefhab Facebook Community came to life out of my loss and deep pain and from my awareness that there are not enough services available for those of us experiencing loss. It’s a place to feel, share, vent, grow, learn, listen, heal, and be.
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