After Jim passed away, I found myself constantly saying “This sucks!” When people asked how I was doing. When people talked about their upcoming events. It was my unwanted mantra – This sucks!
I couldn’t envision smiling again let alone being happy. I questioned everything, and at some point I made the decision to embrace the suck. This was a literal, conscious decision I made, because the alternative seemed worse.
We live in a world where sweeping things under the rug is more common than dealing with them – especially when it comes to emotions. And I just don’t operate that way. It goes against everything I stand for.
So I embraced the suck. I didn’t just cry – I sobbed. I wore pajamas like it was my job. I slept when sleep came. I didn’t resist any of it.
And you know what happened? I started to say “This Sucks!” less and less, and I started to breathe again… after months of literally feeling like I couldn’t catch my breath.
So to those of you struggling, please tune out the noise and allow yourself to embrace the suck.
Are you yawning? Is your stomach growling? Do you have aches and pains? This is your GPS! Listen to the clues.
How often do you put on a happy face for others? It’s exhausting! Allow yourself to be true to how you’re feeling – in each and every moment.
Do you feel pressure to “Hurry up and get over it?”
Are you caught up in negative “Should” thinking?
Everyone heals differently. Embrace where you are on your journey. Don’t compare!
Each healing path is unique, and the only one who knows your path is YOU…. Even when you feel completely lost. Trust the process and be true to YOU!
You don’t have to get through this alone!
Whether it’s anxiety, depression, relationships, or just plain overwhelm… I’m here to listen and provide the right support and resources for your individual journey.
As a widow and psychologist I know how all-consuming pain can be. Together, we will figure this out so you can breathe again.