Today is FIVE years… FIVE years. It doesn’t seem possible. It still feels like I lost you just yesterday – but a lifetime has happened in these five years. It’s longer than our time time together after reuniting…. To be clear: This is not the anniversary I want to be celebrating.  2022 has been an extremely difficult time […]

I really cannot believe it’s December. I also really cannot believe it’s approaching 5 years since I lost Jim. Thanksgiving in Michigan without him was hard. It wasn’t obvious to others, but I really did go through so many emotions. And – I shouldn’t be surprised by this – someone told me that they “had enough of my […]

Anxiety… Unless you live with it, you don’t truly understand. And even if you do live with it, you know that there aren’t adequate words to explain it to others. It’s always there – even when it’s dormant. And when it acts up, when it’s raging – no one else knows. It’s invisible, even though it feels […]

For some people, talking about feelings comes easily. And for others, it can take a lot of work.   Some do better in one on one situations, while others excel in group settings.   That’s why I’ve always run my practice my way.   Because no two people are alike.   Because insurance companies don’t […]

A lot of people assume that as a Psychologist, everyone in my world supports my passion for changing the way the world views mental health. I wish! There are many who just don’t believe in Psychology – even in my world. But that doesn’t stop me from being me. It doesn’t stop me from having […]

Leaving Michigan to start my life with Jim was a no brainer … but that doesn’t at all mean that it was easy. To this day, it’s one of the most difficult things I’ve gone through in life. And Denver with Jim was amazing… but it was his city, not mine. Truly a MAJOR adjustment. I […]

After Jim passed away, I found myself constantly saying “This sucks!” When people asked how I was doing. When people talked about their upcoming events. It was my unwanted mantra – This sucks! I couldn’t envision smiling again let alone being happy. I questioned everything, and at some point I made the decision to embrace […]

If you know me at all, you know that Dallas and Sassy are my babies. My everything. Well my poor little Sass had to get her shots on May 27, which I hate. She’s always been sensitive and after just getting my 2nd COVID vaccine the week before…. I have a whole new level of […]

What an insane 6 months it’s been… personally and in the world. I really can’t think of any other way to describe it, can you? It started for me with The Boulder Fires, an experience I would love to forget but will never ever be able to erase from my mind. I’ve seen horrendous fires […]

Conversation with my dad… My dad recently asked me about some of Jim’s “closest” friends, and I responded by discussing how grief teaches you who your true friends are. There are people we weren’t the closest with…people who we didn’t talk to regularly, but who now check in on me at least once a week. […]

My dad always wanted a boy. I’ve been aware of this fact my entire life.  Maybe it’s the reason I’m a tomboy. It certainly isn’t a coincidence that I play tennis, like my dad does. I went to Michigan (Go Blue) which was his dream. He actually came to class with me more than once!! […]

Let’s talk truth. What’s your definition of toxic? I initially think of chemicals. But there’s emotional toxicity, too. We’ve all dealt with people who blame and deflect instead of just taking responsibility and apologizing. I have someone who makes this into an art form, to the point that I question myself. Bottom line: I know […]