One of the things Jim and I instantly connected over was our mutual love
of sports. Especially our mutual love of football.
Our wedding tables were named in honor of our hometown teams…. Jim wasn’t allowing a Cowboys anything at our wedding 😂
So football without Jim was difficult… for a long time.
Watching at all, let alone actually going to a game.
But I got there, and this season I finally felt like my old self, actually enjoying the game again.
And then Damar Hamlin collapsed on the field. They reported that he was receiving CPR, and I’m telling you – I was transported back to the very moments I lost Jim.
And I’m not the only one. I’ve talked to so many people over the last week who were triggered in some way by what we all saw on national tv.
And here’s the thing…. I’m absolutely thrilled that Hamlin is ok.
I really thought he didn’t make it. And I’ve been following his recovery like it’s my job.
But I’m also human. And I can’t stop myself from thinking that Jim could still be here if he had a medical staff and defibrillator nearby.
I thought it, I admit it.
And then I felt like an absolutely horrible person for thinking it!
But it’s true. Damar Hamlin is alive because he received immediate medical attention, including CPR.
Jim, and most of the rest of the world, lay there waiting until EMS arrived to begin CPR.
I hope this changes in my future. I hope to live in a world with defibrillators and CPR trained staff everywhere I go – so that no one else faces haunting “what ifs” like mine.
I want to live in a world where everyone receives a superstar immediate response.
If I can’t live in this world with Jim, I’m going to work on making it a better world for everyone in it.
I hadn’t planned to watch any football this past weekend. I was upset the world got back to football conversations in the midst of life and death.
And then Damar Hamlin woke up. Among his first written words were “Did we win the game?”
And as quickly as the world stopped to pray for Hamlin and his recovery, it just as quickly returned to January Football Conversations. The Playoffs!
And I was again excited to watch the games… for entirely new reasons.
My favorite moments were when both teams met midfield before the game started to come together in prayer.
I hope this continues forever.
I loved seeing ALL of the stadiums filled with “3s” everywhere and shirts and signs showing love for Hamlin.
I loved seeing The Bills return the opening kick for a touchdown.
Tell me it didn’t feel like a movie!! A movie they win it all in next month…. We shall see…
I absolutely loved seeing The Lions beat The Packers, ending this season with a winning record! Who woulda thought!??!
WHAT A WEEK!
To everyone who struggled through this, or through anything for that matter – let’s take away something positive from this experience. And, by the way, it’s ok if you’re still struggling. We all have our own ways of recovering from trauma, at our own pace.
Just remember how last week started, and then came full circle to end the week. Hold on to that. Tightly.
No matter where you are. No matter what you’re going through. Even when it seems completely out of reach, there’s still hope.
The world recovered through discussing the event. Through discussing feelings. Through connecting – because everyone was hurting.
And that’s the world we live in, folks. One where everyone is hurting. They’re hurting in different ways, but everyone is dealing with something.
So remember to discuss the events in your life. Discuss your feelings! Connect with others who understand and get through it together.
This isn’t the first blog I planned to write in 2023. But life happened. I made adjustments. The world made adjustments.
And it’s ok to adjust – during a crisis AND on an ordinary day. Take care of YOU. Take care of your loved ones. Take care of each other.
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