I overheard two teens talking while I was in line picking up a prescription.  I rarely stop and go in. Let’s be real, the drive thru is easier. That day, for some reason, I decided to go in.    I don’t believe in coincidences, by the way. I believe in the universe –   So, […]

WHAT A WEEK!!  What a football week. One of the things Jim and I instantly connected over was our mutual loveof sports. Especially our mutual love of football. Our wedding tables were named in honor of our hometown teams…. Jim wasn’t allowing a Cowboys anything at our wedding 😂  So football without Jim was difficult… for a long […]

Today is FIVE years… FIVE years. It doesn’t seem possible. It still feels like I lost you just yesterday – but a lifetime has happened in these five years. It’s longer than our time time together after reuniting…. To be clear: This is not the anniversary I want to be celebrating.  2022 has been an extremely difficult time […]

I really cannot believe it’s December. I also really cannot believe it’s approaching 5 years since I lost Jim. Thanksgiving in Michigan without him was hard. It wasn’t obvious to others, but I really did go through so many emotions. And – I shouldn’t be surprised by this – someone told me that they “had enough of my […]

Anxiety… Unless you live with it, you don’t truly understand. And even if you do live with it, you know that there aren’t adequate words to explain it to others. It’s always there – even when it’s dormant. And when it acts up, when it’s raging – no one else knows. It’s invisible, even though it feels […]

I’m sure I’ve talked about this before… but it’s worth continued conversations! So bare with me. It’s the simple things. The things that happen allllll the time but no one sees. It’s the effen peanuts… Jim didn’t just eat peanuts. He shook them first, the way you shake dice. And it always – I’m talking […]

I’m approaching the 5 year anniversary of losing Jim. Almost five years… And it still feels like it just happened yesterday.            But I’ve also done SO much in these almost 5 years. I have four books already out, with 4 more coming!! Leading With Legacy will be available on Amazon […]

What’s wrong with me? It’s summer and everyone is happy but I’m stressed, depressed and overwhelmed.  Sound like anyone you know? Maybe you’ve been there yourself. And it’s Okay!  We live in a world that avoids uncomfortable conversations. And that makes everything worse. So let’s have the conversations.  Life is full of ups and downs […]

“There are 700,000 new widows a year In America – and that’s a pre pandemic number!” The W Word. The club we never ever asked to join. The loss of the future we planned. Starting over. Finding our new (widowed) self. Being a widow is absolutely devastating. That doesn’t even begin to describe it, though. […]

As a psychologist, grief expert and widow, I get a lot of questions about grief and depression – both from individuals dealing with loss, as well as friends and family members with loved ones dealing with a loss. Common questions include: “Is this more of a reaction to grief, or is this crossing over into […]

When do I donate my husband’s clothes? Is it too soon?Am I crazy for not being ready? I get these questions regularly, and they’re questions I asked myself during my journey. And here’s the not so simple but simple answer: it’s different for each one of us. So whenever it’s right for you is when it’s […]

Four years. I don’t even know what it means… It doesn’t mean it hurts any less. Quite  the opposite. I miss you even more. It doesn’t mean I understand it any better. I still reach for you before I’m fully awake. Every Single Morning. Which means that I’m sleeping,  something I didn’t do much of […]