It’s International Day for Tolerance, so today I want to talk about tolerance from the perspective of a mental health advocate.  If you spend even a small amount of time interacting with others, you’re bound to find differences. From race and gender to political beliefs and worldviews, diversity is all around us. And as the […]

November 16, 2023

Practicing Tolerance: It’s Good for Your Mental Health!

It's been a while!

I relaunched my business. And most importantly, I showed up for what matters most—even when no one was watching.

My world was already shattered after losing Jim in 2017, but on May 8th, my sweet SassyGirl passed away, causing it to shatter in so
many new ways. 

If you know me, you know she wasn’t just “my dog.” She was my shadow, my heartbeat, my constant in a world that rarely stays still. She was also another connection to Jim.

I left one piece behind when we left Colorado - the place he loved so much and so proudly helped me love and call home. 

And I lost another as Sassy crossed the Rainbow Bridge and went from my arms into his.

That’s the only peace I found. Knowing they’re together again ❤ watching over me (and Dallas, and of course, Denver, too!!)

I put Sassy first when we got to Michigan. It wasn’t about adjusting or exploring. I wasn’t about me or work or meeting people. It was
about Sassy and making sure she was as well adjusted as possible.
That was never a question.

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would lose her this year. Her decline was rapid! But this isn’t about her pain…. 

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love. 

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a
new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps
me on my toes in ways only little dogs can. 

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with
Sassy and Jim. Every night. 

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me. 

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again. 

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the
truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even
when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day,
especially when it’s hard. 

So other’s know that they don’t have to wear the masks. That they don’t have to prioritize the world’s comfort above their own. 

That takes energy that can better be used simply surviving.

This blog is the first page of my next chapter. 

If you’ve been with me through the podcast, the posts, and the newsletters, thank you. You’ve seen the in-between. You’ve witnessed the
messy middle. And now, I’m bringing it back to my favorite place, the written page - not to rehash the past, but to write what’s next. 

So here’s my question for you as I return to my page:
What part of yourself have you been too busy living life to write down?

Remember that you can reach out anytime - to say hi, share feedback, ask for a resource…. whatever you need!
Connect at: sam@griefhab.org 

September 10, 2025
Awareness, Blog, Healing, Inspiration, Support

Samantha Ruth LLC in Colorado has officially closed.
All business can be directed to griefhab via sam@griefhab.org

Not because I don’t care about you. Not because I haven’t had anything to say – but because I was living the words before I could write them.

Since last year, life has been full of deep endings and brave beginnings. I relocated back to Michigan.

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love.

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps me on my toes in ways only little dogs can.

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with Sassy and Jim. Every night.

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me.

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again.

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day, especially when it’s hard.

Did you know that Mahatma Gandhi had a soulmate and it wasn’t his wife Casaba? It was the male Architect Hermann Kellanbach. Or that a gender-fluid Pharaoh ruled Egypt for 22 years over 2000 years ago?   In this week’s episode of “The Be Ruthless Show” I spoke with Queer activist and author Lee Wind […]

July 1, 2021

No Way! They Were Gay? Copy

No Way! They were gay?

It's been a while!

I relaunched my business. And most importantly, I showed up for what matters most—even when no one was watching.

My world was already shattered after losing Jim in 2017, but on May 8th, my sweet SassyGirl passed away, causing it to shatter in so
many new ways. 

If you know me, you know she wasn’t just “my dog.” She was my shadow, my heartbeat, my constant in a world that rarely stays still. She was also another connection to Jim.

I left one piece behind when we left Colorado - the place he loved so much and so proudly helped me love and call home. 

And I lost another as Sassy crossed the Rainbow Bridge and went from my arms into his.

That’s the only peace I found. Knowing they’re together again ❤ watching over me (and Dallas, and of course, Denver, too!!)

I put Sassy first when we got to Michigan. It wasn’t about adjusting or exploring. I wasn’t about me or work or meeting people. It was
about Sassy and making sure she was as well adjusted as possible.
That was never a question.

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would lose her this year. Her decline was rapid! But this isn’t about her pain…. 

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love. 

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a
new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps
me on my toes in ways only little dogs can. 

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with
Sassy and Jim. Every night. 

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me. 

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again. 

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the
truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even
when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day,
especially when it’s hard. 

So other’s know that they don’t have to wear the masks. That they don’t have to prioritize the world’s comfort above their own. 

That takes energy that can better be used simply surviving.

This blog is the first page of my next chapter. 

If you’ve been with me through the podcast, the posts, and the newsletters, thank you. You’ve seen the in-between. You’ve witnessed the
messy middle. And now, I’m bringing it back to my favorite place, the written page - not to rehash the past, but to write what’s next. 

So here’s my question for you as I return to my page:
What part of yourself have you been too busy living life to write down?

Remember that you can reach out anytime - to say hi, share feedback, ask for a resource…. whatever you need!
Connect at: sam@griefhab.org 

September 10, 2025
Awareness, Blog, Healing, Inspiration, Support

Samantha Ruth LLC in Colorado has officially closed.
All business can be directed to griefhab via sam@griefhab.org

Not because I don’t care about you. Not because I haven’t had anything to say – but because I was living the words before I could write them.

Since last year, life has been full of deep endings and brave beginnings. I relocated back to Michigan.

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love.

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps me on my toes in ways only little dogs can.

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with Sassy and Jim. Every night.

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me.

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again.

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day, especially when it’s hard.

Maintaining a positive self-image and strong mental health can be challenging for anyone. However, members of the LGTBQ community often find that their mental health challenges are compounded by their orientation. If you are struggling to determine your sexual identity or facing discrimination for your sexual orientation, studies suggest that you may be more at […]

March 1, 2017

Mental Health Within The LGTBQ Community

It's been a while!

I relaunched my business. And most importantly, I showed up for what matters most—even when no one was watching.

My world was already shattered after losing Jim in 2017, but on May 8th, my sweet SassyGirl passed away, causing it to shatter in so
many new ways. 

If you know me, you know she wasn’t just “my dog.” She was my shadow, my heartbeat, my constant in a world that rarely stays still. She was also another connection to Jim.

I left one piece behind when we left Colorado - the place he loved so much and so proudly helped me love and call home. 

And I lost another as Sassy crossed the Rainbow Bridge and went from my arms into his.

That’s the only peace I found. Knowing they’re together again ❤ watching over me (and Dallas, and of course, Denver, too!!)

I put Sassy first when we got to Michigan. It wasn’t about adjusting or exploring. I wasn’t about me or work or meeting people. It was
about Sassy and making sure she was as well adjusted as possible.
That was never a question.

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would lose her this year. Her decline was rapid! But this isn’t about her pain…. 

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love. 

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a
new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps
me on my toes in ways only little dogs can. 

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with
Sassy and Jim. Every night. 

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me. 

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again. 

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the
truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even
when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day,
especially when it’s hard. 

So other’s know that they don’t have to wear the masks. That they don’t have to prioritize the world’s comfort above their own. 

That takes energy that can better be used simply surviving.

This blog is the first page of my next chapter. 

If you’ve been with me through the podcast, the posts, and the newsletters, thank you. You’ve seen the in-between. You’ve witnessed the
messy middle. And now, I’m bringing it back to my favorite place, the written page - not to rehash the past, but to write what’s next. 

So here’s my question for you as I return to my page:
What part of yourself have you been too busy living life to write down?

Remember that you can reach out anytime - to say hi, share feedback, ask for a resource…. whatever you need!
Connect at: sam@griefhab.org 

September 10, 2025
Awareness, Blog, Healing, Inspiration, Support

Samantha Ruth LLC in Colorado has officially closed.
All business can be directed to griefhab via sam@griefhab.org

Not because I don’t care about you. Not because I haven’t had anything to say – but because I was living the words before I could write them.

Since last year, life has been full of deep endings and brave beginnings. I relocated back to Michigan.

Grief doesn’t pause for convenience, and neither does love.

Dallas, my youngest (and now, somehow, my oldest), has stepped into a new role of her own. And little Denver—full of mischief and magic—keeps me on my toes in ways only little dogs can.

I’m learning so many lessons. Every day!! And sharing the stories with Sassy and Jim. Every night.

These transitions haven’t just shaped my days—they’ve reshaped me.

So no, this isn’t about starting over. It’s about starting again.

With more clarity. More conviction. And the same core mission: to tell the truth loudly and proudly about grief, healing, and mental health, even when it’s hard. To show up as my authentic self every single day, especially when it’s hard.