Today is FIVE years… FIVE years. It doesn’t seem possible. It still feels like I lost you just yesterday – but a lifetime has happened in these five years. It’s longer than our time time together after reuniting…. To be clear: This is not the anniversary I want to be celebrating.  2022 has been an extremely difficult time […]

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December 27, 2022

Today is FIVE years…

Anxiety… Unless you live with it, you don’t truly understand. And even if you do live with it, you know that there aren’t adequate words to explain it to others. It’s always there – even when it’s dormant. And when it acts up, when it’s raging – no one else knows. It’s invisible, even though it feels […]

Anxiety, Blog, Emotional Health, Grieving, Mental Health, Moods, My Journey, Support

November 21, 2022

It’s Thanksgiving Week and a LOT is Happening!!

I’m sure I’ve talked about this before… but it’s worth continued conversations! So bare with me. It’s the simple things. The things that happen allllll the time but no one sees. It’s the effen peanuts… Jim didn’t just eat peanuts. He shook them first, the way you shake dice. And it always – I’m talking […]

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November 5, 2022

It’s The Effen Peanuts! The Unexpected But Always Present Grief Triggers

I’m approaching the 5 year anniversary of losing Jim. Almost five years… And it still feels like it just happened yesterday.            But I’ve also done SO much in these almost 5 years. I have four books already out, with 4 more coming!! Leading With Legacy will be available on Amazon […]

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October 24, 2022

Almost Five Years…

It’s Jimtember I’m not good at picking favorites – other than my sports teams, obviously. But when it comes to my favorite days of the year, Jim’s birthday is at the very top of my list. If you knew him, you know how much he loved celebrating his birthday. Usually with karaoke. And I adored […]

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September 8, 2022

Celebrating Jimtember

On our walk this morning, Dallas just cracked me up! ♥ It’s impossible for her to look in front of her – ya know, the direction she’s actually going. Instead, she’s consumed with every noise, smell, neighbor, bird, squirrel, and even wind around her. I’ll come back to this… On the 31st, we’re celebrating our […]

Blog, Emotional Health, Grieving, Mental Health, Mindset, Pets

August 25, 2022

Celebrating our Ruthiversary: Life Lessons with Dallas Ruth

Someone reached out to me recently through my website, and of course I responded. The reply I received took me back to when I first lost Jim: “I don’t know what I need….” I so vividly remember that feeling. I remember people wanting to help – truly wanting to help and asking me what I […]

Blog, Emotional Health, Grieving, Mental Health, Mindset

August 11, 2022

Why WE need YOU: Showing Up for people dealing with loss

How is it already the end of July?   It’s amazing to me that time goes by so quickly and it still feels like I just lost Jim yesterday.   Our wedding anniversary is in less than 3 weeks. And Jim’s birthday is 3 weeks after that…. along with football – which we loved together! […]

Blog, Emotional Health, Grieving, Inspiration

July 28, 2022

Knowledge Is Power

What’s wrong with me? It’s summer and everyone is happy but I’m stressed, depressed and overwhelmed.  Sound like anyone you know? Maybe you’ve been there yourself. And it’s Okay!  We live in a world that avoids uncomfortable conversations. And that makes everything worse. So let’s have the conversations.  Life is full of ups and downs […]

Anxiety, Depression, Emotional Health, Grieving, Mindset, Moods, Stress

June 30, 2022

What’s wrong with me? It’s summer and everyone is happy but I’m stressed, depressed and overwhelmed. 

  The world doesn’t understand grief. The world doesn’t talk about grief. And this is what you absolutely MUST understand. This makes it even MORE difficult for people struggling with loss to heal.    It’s hard enough. And for some reason, there’s this myth that talking about the people we’ve lost makes us feel worse.  […]

Grieving

May 19, 2022

Why I’m Discussing Grief During Mental Health Awareness Month

A lot of people assume that as a Psychologist, everyone in my world supports my passion for changing the way the world views mental health. I wish! There are many who just don’t believe in Psychology – even in my world. But that doesn’t stop me from being me. It doesn’t stop me from having […]

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May 12, 2022

May is Mental Health Awareness Month

mental health awareness

Leaving Michigan to start my life with Jim was a no brainer … but that doesn’t at all mean that it was easy. To this day, it’s one of the most difficult things I’ve gone through in life. And Denver with Jim was amazing… but it was his city, not mine. Truly a MAJOR adjustment. I […]

Blog, Emotional Health, Grieving, Ideas, Inspiration, Mindset, My Journey

April 21, 2022

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