As a psychologist, grief expert and widow, I get a lot of questions about grief and depression – both from individuals dealing with loss, as well as friends and family members with loved ones dealing with a loss. Common questions include: “Is this more of a reaction to grief, or is this crossing over into […]

Anxiety, Blog, Depression, Disorders, Emotional Health, Grieving, Mental Health

January 27, 2022

Grief vs Depression

Grief vs Depression are worth it!! Todays guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Rachael Poffenroth, shares her story of falling apart…which ultimately resulted in her complete transformation. Rachael shares her perspective on worth vs wealth and more!! Rachael is an expert on how to become irresistibly magnetic to your goals and dreams. Because you don’t attract what you want in […]


January 26, 2022

The Be Ruthless Show Episode 80 – Self Worth vs Self Wealth

After a major fall on the ice last week, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about safety – especially for those of us who live alone. So on todays episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss measures we can take to improve our safety. Tune in to hear more:


January 24, 2022

The Be Ruthless Show Episode 79 – Home Alone

Home Alone

When do I donate my husband’s clothes? Is it too soon?Am I crazy for not being ready? I get these questions regularly, and they’re questions I asked myself during my journey. And here’s the not so simple but simple answer: it’s different for each one of us. So whenever it’s right for you is when it’s […]

Anxiety, Blog, Disorders, Emotional Health, Mental Health

January 13, 2022

3 Key Steps You Need To Take To Find Your Answer

answer guest on today’s episode is the Creator and CEO of Human Better 365, a human transformation company!  Sabrina Victoria focuses on time management and organization as the foundations of life. These values have helped her successfully create and run several other businesses, including… – Her Version Podcast – Envision Your Best Life 90-Day Planner – […]


January 12, 2022

The Be Ruthless Show Episode 76 – Why Is My Boyfriend Bullying Me?

Anxiety continues to rise through the Covid Pandemic. While the world focuses on what the individuals struggling can do, today I discuss what the rest of the world can do to be better educated and supportive for these people struggling. I share a recent encounter I had with some Colorado teachers who, like me, wont […]


January 10, 2022

The Be Ruthless Show Episode 75 – Assigning Responsibility vs Taking Responsibility & Why This Matters!


Four years. I don’t even know what it means… It doesn’t mean it hurts any less. Quite  the opposite. I miss you even more. It doesn’t mean I understand it any better. I still reach for you before I’m fully awake. Every Single Morning. Which means that I’m sleeping,  something I didn’t do much of […]

Anxiety, Blog, Disorders, Emotional Health, Mental Health

December 28, 2021

Four Years – Many Lessons

Four years - many lessons

I’ve dealt with loss in my life – all 4 of my grandparents, my childhood home, friendships. And when I lost Jim the first time – true love. But through all of those losses, the rest of my world remained unchanged. I still had my family, friends, the career I love. My future as I envisioned […]

Anxiety, Blog, Disorders, Emotional Health, Mental Health

December 16, 2021

Mourning the Loss of the Life That Was

How to see your anxiety as a gift! It took me a long time to understand my anxiety, and now it’s important to me to help others on this journey. Because anxiety is many things, including misunderstood. And minimized. And a gift! According to the National Alliance Of Mental Illness “Over 40 million adults in the US […]

Anxiety, Blog, Disorders, Emotional Health, Mental Health

December 2, 2021

How To Thrive When Living With Anxiety

Living with Anxiety

“When was the last time you had a different perspective than one of your friends? When was the last time you learned something about someone else’s culture?”  On November 16th, we celebrated International Day Of Tolerance. Just like World Kindness Day, this is a special day we celebrate yearly to raise awareness for something I […]

Blog, Ideas, Mental Health, Mindset, Support

November 18, 2021

International Day For Tolerance

stress management We live in a world that glamorizes being stressed. It’s like a badge of honor, and it begins early in life. My 11 year old niece said to me recently, “Aunt Sam – can I call you back? I’m really stressed out right now.” 😂 While adorable and amusing, it’s also rather alarming. […]

Blog, Emotional Health, Mental Health, Stress, Support, The Be Ruthless Show

November 4, 2021

Managing Stress In Celebration Of International Stress Awareness Day

Stress Management

When you’ve experienced significant loss, it can feel like your world has exploded into a million pieces. It may feel like your world is out of control, and putting the pieces back together is impossible. I am here to tell you from experience that it IS possible. You can take control of your healing journey, […]

Emotional Health, Grieving, Mental Health, Mental Illness, Support, The Be Ruthless Show

October 21, 2021

Grief and Healing